Not all relationships are gratifying.
Some can take a toll on your emotional and physical health. These tips
will help you determine if your relationship is in good or bad shape
Freedom
In a healthy relationship, partners
logically spend a lot of time together yet give each other some personal
space. They do this often because they recognise the importance of
doing things independently at certain times. The time alone allows the
other explore, reflect, and express his or herself individually.
Trust
Great relationships are built on a
foundation of trust. Trusting your partner is vital, and it takes time
to build. Absolute trust in your partner keeps you in a healthy state of
mind and body whilst endearing you to your lover.
Slow and steady
Most lovers in a healthy relationship are
aware of the fact that the best things in life are worth waiting for.
That way, they take each milestone in the relationship slow and steady.
They savour every moment of building a life together and take the time
to celebrate the important occasions in their relationship.
Sincerity
In a healthy relationship, you are open
about discussing your fears, strengths, and weaknesses with your lover.
Speaking your mind can be incredibly difficult at times, but people in
healthy relationships don’t hold back–even when the truth hurts.
Symbiotic
Healthy relationships are built on mutual
motivation, respect and inspiration. Your partner should inspire you to
be the best you can be, face difficult challenges, and achieve your
goals. A healthy relationship is not parasitic in nature.
Compliments
Compliments are never in short supply in a
healthy relationship. As the spice in any relationship, nothing
gladdens the heart and boosts the morale of your lover like regular and
well-crafted compliments.
Acceptance
People in healthy relationships accept
each other’s flaws and strengths. This doesn’t mean you should encourage
your significant other to accept mediocrity. It does, however, mean you
should accept whom your partner chooses to be even as you help them to
become the best.
Endurance
A major sign of a healthy relationship is
how you support each other during trying times. Don’t be afraid to cry
together and experience pain and suffering. The fact that your partner
is solidly behind you every step of the way is an assurance that you can
surmount any challenge.
Forgiveness
People in healthy relationships know that
mistakes and failures are nothing but pathways to attainment. They
don’t let past stumbles dictate their current relationship.
Argument
Occasional arguments are a sign of a
healthy relationship. Arguing is a sign that you both have your own
opinions and are strong enough to stick to them. If there are no
arguments, it could be a sign that somebody is hiding something, hiding
their feelings, or just not being honest about what they really think.
Identity
In a healthy relationship, each partner
is able maintain his or her identity and not lose it. If that happens,
you may find yourself being too self-sacrificial and essentially a
doormat, not really happy in your situation, and unable to communicate
it because you don’t even know what you want anymore.
Privacy
Yes, you are lovers but you are still two
separate individuals who have a right to your privacy being respected.
This means no snooping around or looking through their phone. Unless
they have given you a damn good reason to be suspicious about something,
this is a betrayal of trust that healthy couples do not engage in.
Apology
Just because you’re in a good
relationship doesn’t mean you’ll never do wrong. Healthy pairs are
willing step up to the plate of responsibility and offer a sincere
apology and a strategy for not letting the misdeed repeat itself.
Joy
Healthy relationships are full of
laughter and fun. This doesn’t mean there will never be down times or
sad times. The fun and joy in a healthy relationship is endless and
genuine.
Well said. Mrs O
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